Domestic violence can be dangerous, for both adults and children. Survivors who are in violent relationships know this well. LACADA works closely with survivors of violence to create a safety plan specific to their situations. Remember, leaving an abusive partner can often be a very dangerous time for victims of violence. Though each family is different, here are some ways to assist you in being safe:
Safety When Preparing to Leave:
- Open a savings account in your own name.
- Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, medication and extra clothes with someone you trust, so you can leave quickly.
- Make sure the cell phone is always charged. If you do not have a cell phone, LACADA staff can help you in obtaining an emergency cell phone that is capable of dialing 911 only.
- Have a plan of where you will go if you need to leave the home.
Safety in Your Home:
- Make certain that exterior doors are locked at all times. Teach your children the importance of keeping the doors locked. If your assailant has a key, change your locks as soon as possible.
- Discuss a safety plan with your children. Discuss how they can stay safe in the home and when you are not with them.
- Inform your children’s school, day care, etc. about who has permission to pick up your children.
- Inform neighbors and your landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should call the police if they see your partner near your home.
Safety During an Explosive Incident:
- If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area that has access to an exit and not a bathroom, kitchen or anywhere near weapons.
- Practice how to get out of your home safely.
- Have a packed bag ready and keep it hidden but accessible in order to leave quickly.
- Ask a neighbor to call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home.
- Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you need the police.
- Plan where you will go if you have to leave home.
- Use your own instincts to judge if the situation is dangerous.
- Always remember, you don’t deserve to be hit or threatened.
LACADA will work with you and your children, at no cost to you, to develop a safety plan specific to your situation.